Question from a woman: picking the wrong men

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From: Susan
Sent: Monday, March 20, 2006 1:04 PM
Hi there,
Would your book be helpful for a woman to read? I seem to attract relationships with wifebeaters, dopeheads and binge drinkers!!!
They all seem so charming and normal to start with. Is it just me?
Regards, Susan

Thanks for writing in, Susan.
Many of the principles in the book are useful regardless of gender. However, I'd encourage you to wait for the women's version.
These rogues that are waltzing into your life sometimes project a natural attractiveness about them. Your job is to realize that attraction happens at an unconscious level and then do your due diligence in figuring out whether they are actually good for you or not. So in that sense -- yes, you have been and will be fully responsible for all of the decisions you have made. Now that you know you have the power, it's time for you to make better decisions.
I also suspect that you are meeting these men in public places, versus through friends and family. When a man is introduced to you via a trusted source, it's much easier to get a back story on him and much harder for him to behave irresponsibly.
All the best,
Dr Alex