The insidiousness of excuses

Hi Alex,

Maybe you can 'explain' in your next issue. Will's story is great: the presence of a woman like Maples makes you feel good, I suppose :-)
Not to downplay his 'skills' and mindset, how much does this factor weigh in: Marla was open\in to him: nice, friendly guy, talks her up. Because......... he was no 'threat'! She allowed him, cause she's not interested in older man! I guess it would have been much harder for a guy her age, particularly because her boyfriend was ready for the "kill" :-) But, now, it was just a nice, old guy, nothing to 'worry' about.
Is my assumption correct? Or would she have reacted that way to any guy, because of his attitude and 'radiance'?
-- Jacques, South Africa

Jacques--

Thanks for writing in.

The point really isn't about Marla, or results per se. Frankly, I don't really care if he married her right on the spot or if Marla walked away. The point is that he was able to do something that previously he had thought difficult or impossible, and he did it with grace and ease and in a way that others can emulate.

Another issue is excuses. I was certain that someone would write in and say "but *that* guy could do it because he was old." The fact is, people are always making excuses. If he were young, the old guy would say that's why he could do it. If he were well-spoken, the shy guy would say well, the guy's a talker. The fact is that we're perpetually making excuses and somehow elevating (or denigrating) others to explain why they're getting results when we are not -- even if the guy describes himself as an unremarkable 60yr old. What I want is for men and women to decide once and for all that they're done with excuses and do what it takes to move out of their comfort zones and grasp what truly brings fulfillment to their lives. Make an excuse to have no more excuses and chuck 'em.

All the best,

Dr Alex